While a secure and happy family environment is considered a bare necessity for healthy growth and development, there is a fine line between caring and caring too much. Parental pressure has led to the most horrifying situations. Modern society could be very competitive place. Honesty and humbleness are shown with sarcasm, sensible deeds are questioned and bad deeds regularly ignored. Power and money become prime needs for survival. Unemployment rates are running high.
Adding to the pressure on students, considered the future, are those parents who place mountains of responsibility on their youngsters. One can only imagine what the kid goes through. Several parents want their children to be the star of the class, the top of the school. This is not wrong in that we must aim high to achieve our utmost potential but there is, however, a saying that “a chicken will run, canoodle, play and eat. It will get pleasure from the time it lives. When it tries to fly, though, it will only disappoint itself.”
Encouragement From Parents:
Encouragement, coming back from parents, is a child’s stepping stone to success. You are a key player in your kid’s life and shall be the one your child will rely on to learn confidence, labor and excellence. It is also your responsibility to show your kid to just accept failure without losing heart. Failure could be a cue to seek chance and not an event for mourning.
Work On Your Communication Skills:
Having real talk along with your parents/carers regarding what you want for your life will really work wonders. Kick start this by saying one thing like, ‘I understand why you wish me to be a doctor, but, I don’t assume this matches my strengths or interests.’ Some other tips for having this conversation include:
- Pick your moment, find a time when your parents are free and chilled. Midweekly can be a chaotic time, between work and school, all are a little fried. Tee up a quiet half hour on the weekend and tell your parents you’d prefer to have a talk.
- Explain that you’re stressed you can’t meet their expectations.
- Tell them what you see for your future, even if the solution is “I don’t know.” Proving that you’re thinking over what is next — even if you’re undecided — might make them feel safer.
- Listen to what they need to mention.
- If you feel you’re not getting anywhere, agree to disagree.
Be Willing to Compromise:
Life is not fair; no doubt you recognize that already, so expecting to get your way all the time is unrealistic. Show your parents that you just understand at least some of their passion by being willing to compromise. Try to find a middle ground — you will study French for an hour every night, but not with the silly tutor they found, you will consider babysitting your cousins regularly if they will consider subsidizing your mobile phone bills — and hopefully, you will find something you can agree upon.
Remain Calm:
Even if it is the tenth time this hour that your mother has told you to stop slouching/watch your mouth/put away your laundry, remain calm. Getting into a screaming match may assist you to blow of some steam but, if you want your parents to listen to what you have to say, check that you just say it in a very reasonable tone. Remaining calm and speaking seriously can convey to your parents that you:
- Have given your topic serious thought
- Can speak about your topic in a very reasonable manner
- Are mature enough to have a discussion, not an argument
- Will be willing to listen to their opinions throughout this discussion.
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